Looking outside the city looks really busy. Lots of people moving in a hurry from place to place. Some seem to have a purpose for their haste moving, but others are moving because everyone else is doing it. You can learn a lot by just simply people watch, human behaviour is unpredictable but at the time very repetitive. People seem to have patterns that they follow, behaviours that are either to fit in or learned behaviours that can’t be broken.
“Life….. looking from the inside is a tragedy, looking from the outside is a comedy.”
A statement that applies to any day anywhere, anyone. People are always so busy hassling that they never take the time to step outside their body and look in. When you look at your life from the eye of an outsider, third person, you will realize that your perspective is not always correct.

Carla B. Boa Vida

are we capable of change? Are we capable of changing our true “colours”. Can a leopard a change its spot, most times the answe is no! We can disguise who we are but the true person always comes out.we are who we are. Some will say we are the product of nature others will argue that we are the product of nurture. Even if we are the product of both, at the end of the day we are what we are! The question is who are you? Who am I ?

Carla B. Boa Vida

change starts within us. When we want to change things around us, for us or other. We first need to look inside. Only when we accept and learn that we need to change us, can we then change things. We should never look to others to make our decisions, decisions that will makes happy or whole. The power has always been and will always be within us. Everything, all the answers we are looking for we already have them. We just need to search and many time accept what we don’t want to see. We are all different and is such differences that make us unique. We must find our path against all.

Carla B. Vida Boa

the shield is more than a shield, it is an extension of her. The one thing that She can’t be without. She is strong but this way she knows no one will see her fears. Every time she leaves a battle she takes it as a learning lesson never to be repeated again. As she walks away she sees an extra set of foot prints on the ground beside hers. It is then that she realizes that she is not alone. She keeps walking and crying in silence looking at those little foot prints realizing that they are her foot prints.

Carla B. Boa Vida

We are always afraid of getting hurt, afraid to fall and not be able to get up. Live is about experiences good and bad. Don’t let anyone or anything ever bring you down. We all have good and bad days. Life has ways of always bring us up when we are at our lowest. At our darkest and lowest moments we find the strength and courage to pull through and stand up. We are here for a reason, sometimes we can’t see it but it’s there, just keep fighting. Don’t let your fears dictate your fate. Keep smiling and you will see that you are the strongest person you know. You are good, your perfect even when you are not.

Boa Vida. CarlaB

Looking back I have realized that I always live my days, my life to what is expected of me. In other words I live a life to appease others. Do what works for everyone around me; and I do what I think other want and need from me. I read somewhere this week that we are or we try to be what we think others think of us. This made me think that it is true for me. I am what I need to be at that time, during the situation, to who I am with. I am what I need to be for those around me. Some days I have a very hard time knowing who I truly am. Who am I ? How would I describe myself if I had to explain in a few words? The truth, I truly really don’t know.

Boa Vida. CarlaB

This morning like many other mornings there is a sensation or some might call it a feeling of repetition. The feeling of repeating the same actions, same motions, same reactions. For those that believe in life after life they might say that you are living the same life until you learn the lessons you need to learn to evolve into a higher state. Then I would say I am a slow learner, because I have the strong sensation of déjà Vu. Most morning if feels like the morning before. Same actions, same feeling and hoping for a different outcome. This is also the the definition of insanity!!

Boa Vida. CarlaB

Scary how alone one feels even when surrounded by lots of people, things and noise. All around is noise pollution but that is all that is noise pollution. Everything is passing by so fast that you are not able to see it or feel it. But there is always that single moment in time that everything seems to slow down or even stop and at that single moment in time you realize in your heart that nothing is real. Could it be that this is nothing more than an illusion ? The friendships, the love affairs, the family ties, nothing more than an illusion because at the end of it all we are alone. Alone with our thoughts, fears, and our tears.

Boa Vida. CarlaB

What is a dream if not a simple illusion in your head! When does it stop being a dream ? When you now that it is to late and it will never happen because of various reason. I now that some dreams just simply need to stop being, when time does not go back. We always say that hope is that last thing to die, but in the world we live in of stress and speed many of the dreams we had get put a side until one day. Guess what that day will never come, because when you look back life got in the way. Now to even thinking about following some of those hopes and dreams would mean giving up everything you have today and even some of the people in your life that would not accept such dreams.

Boa Vida. Carla B

We rush life everyday without ever looking back. We need to be more we need to have more. But what if we were told that life, our life we live everyday is nothing but an illusion, what would you do? We like to believe that we make our on decisions that we only do what we like and don’t like. This is not true we are all pre conditioned to some level. What we like and don’t like, how we behave and think lots of it has to do where we were born and raised. Some of our beliefs and behaviours are brainwashed into us from birth. Yes some we change along the way but other never do. Even some of the things that growing up I always told myself, when I grow up I will never do that. Guess what, I catch myself telling my children the things that it was told to me and yes, I said I will never do that. Interesting how we repeat behaviours and sayings. So the question remains, are we truly us, an individual, or are we products of others, cultures, environments? Food for thought!!!

Boa Vida. Carla B

Is the person the job or is the job the person?
the question is hard to put in words but is also hard to ask. When do you change to adopt to the job or when do you change the job to be more you? People see me as the job that I do not who I am. If I have to be serious and tough, everyone will believe that is you I am. I am no longer seen or thought as someone fun and nice.
In my case the job changed me or I changed for the job. Even that statement is a confusing sentence. The words I changed for the job implies that I consciously changed, that I made that choice willingly. I don’t believe I made a conscious decision it just came with time. Overtime I think I lost me along the way in order to do a good job and be the best. Sacrifices had to be made a long the way and I left pieces of me behind because they did not fit in the new person that I had to be. Perception is half of the battle to get people to see what you what them to see. Act like who you what to be, or act like you already have what you what to have. I like the me today but I miss the old me. Free spirit, fun, caring and above all the me that had so many dream and nothing was going to stop me.

Boa Vida. Carla B

When you grow up in the European culture, you grow up not even knowing with lots of guilt emotion. let me explain what this means. guilt is used on you even from a young age so you behave and do what is expected of you. for example: if you dont behave well during a family function your mother will use the emotion of guilt to make you feel bad about yourself ” you are trying to give me a heart attack from imbursement” or ” we will never be invited over again because of you.” or my favourite ” everyone will be talking about us and how bad of a mother i am.”

When you are a kid you brush all of those comments a way and never think about it again. but for some unknow reason as you grow up those same comments you brushed away as a kid are now part of your subconscious and DNA. Everything you do and don’t do, even without thinking has a little bit of guilt emotion attached to it. You will say yes to a dinner or a person because you feel guilty ( your mother’s voice is in your head telling you that no one will like you if you don’t do it). but the scariest or more concerning part is the feeling that you are never good enough, that you have not done enough or appreciated someone enough. the feeling of never being enough for everyone around you is sometimes overwhelming and paralyzing.

📍have I said thank enough

📍have I showed enough appreciation

📍have I been enough, have I been enough

Or if ….. in your head the answer is always NO. That means you keep putting yourself aside and keep trying to be everything for everyone, but the guilt you feel will never let you stop.

I do you change. How do you stop that feeling. How do you stop it long enough to be happy with yourself.

Boa Vida CarlaB

I never stopped and asked myself why something happens to me and not others! Did you ever think about the logic of life?

when I listen to the experts in meditation, inner peace, spirituality and many more, they tell you that everything that happens to us is a lesson to be learned. Sometimes I just can not see the lesson that I need to learn, therefore this means I am doomed to keep repeating such lesson. They also tells us that every person good or bad that enters our life is a teacher. Again good or bad they are at that place at that time to be our teachers. Sometimes those lessons are cruel and hard to accept. There is one thing that took me this long to learn and accept that is that I need to accept and deal with the now. The now, the present is what is in front of me every second of every day. Every day Is new, every hour is new, every second of that hour is new. I have learned that if I face the now, accept it ( good or bad) I can come up with a solution to make things better. It took many years of being angry at the world and always thinking why me, why always me? Everyone always get everything handed to them, I try so hard and I just keep getting slapped by life. That was me! That is not me today. I realized that I was attracting all the chaos and dysfunction in. Now even when there is chaos and yes there is days with lots of chaos i just need to look for the answers and they will show up. For example I am all about staying busy and getting everything done myself, ( I don’t think that will change) but this week I was forced to stop everything in one second. At first I was angry and disappointed but now I can see that it was good that I slowed down. I am enjoying the few days away from everything, right now I am writing this outdoor enjoying the weather and nature. So everything happens for a reason you just need to find the good side to it.

Carla B. Boa Vida

Something always has to change about you or around you for us to realize that being all is not all. We always measure ourselves by being a great mother, great employee, good boss, fantastic friend, great child, supportive spouse. We are the person that is everything to everyone, the constant for everyone around us. The one that fixes all and always steps forward to do it without hesitation. While you are all life is passing by and you don’t even notice because you are busy being busy. But one day something changes and you realize that you forgot you behind. You realize that you are not you, and life is suffocating you and you are not enough. Children grow up and move on, your work replaces you very easily, your friends are busy and your spouse moved on with someone that has time to spend together. Today make a conscious decision to take time for yourself, take care of yourself. Today go for a walk, make a spa appointment, read a book, think about who you are and what you want your future to look like. Take the first time and do what is best for you, be your best friend, be the best you. All the answers you need are inside of you. Be you

Carla B Vida boa

Everyday we ask questions! Some we ask out loud to others or to ourselves. Many times those questions are just in our head. Questions that are always there but that we can’t ever get a straight answer.
if you were given an opportunity of a life time to ask a question, just one what would it be?
one question about past, present or future. A question about yourself, other, life, purpose, anything. One question with no restrictions and no judgment. Also with the understanding that the answer would be the truth, the entire truth and very straight to the point.
what would be your question????
but before you stop and think about this one question that could change everything and nothing. Are you really prepared to know and accept the truth even if is not what you what to hear.
Stop and think what would your one question be? And do you really what the answer?

Boa Vida Carla B

Today’s world we are all very busy. We don’t have time to slow down and think or reflect on anything. We all live a very fast life, and time is money. Therefore slowing down is a waste of time and money. If we allow ourselves to slow down we will miss an opportunity or the change to be better than the person next to us. We will not allow ourselves to slow down because people may think that we are not capable of accomplishing the needed tasks. We think we can do it all and we need to prove it every day. Or if, we do slow down or stop for a second will things fall apart,?will the world stop? Or if, we do slow down or stop for that second, that moment and no catastrophe happens! Will we than realize that it is ok to breathe and take a moment for ourselves, and nothing wrong will happen. The danger in taking that moment and reflect on ourselves, reflect about life and the life we are living is that we may see something we don’t want to see. We will come to the realization that we have wasted our time on this earth. We used our time here carelessly with no purpose and we make no impact on anything or anyone. Are we capable of changing our present to change our future? Is it ever too late?

Boa Vida. Carla B